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What radical courage does it take to love in the face of hate? Through portraiture and personal narratives highlighting joy, belonging, found family and meaningful romantic and platonic relationships, KBIA’s Alphabet Soup challenges the notion that Missouri’s LGBTQ+ community is a monolith. Tucked away within the amalgamation of letters that makes up the LGBTQ+ community and the complex identities each represents is joy: rebellious, resistant, radiant.
Hudson Giles-Lavender, left, and Jane Lavender, right, who have been together for 23 years, laugh together on their couch on Friday, March 29, 2024, at their home in Columbia. “When do you drop the hand? Like, you're walking down the road, you're like, happy as a queer little bunny rabbit holding hands. And then someone shows up that makes you feel unsafe. That is so rare for me, the older I get,” Giles-Lavender said. “I feel like if I want to kiss Jane anywhere and say goodbye or hello, I shall. If we want to have a loud, raucous-y party with a gay flag on the house and have all our lovely, wonderful queer friends over, we shall. If we want to take over a restaurant with all that is us as a community, we will. I feel like just being who I am all the time.”
Bailey Stover
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KBIA
Jane Lavender and Hudson Giles-Lavender have been together for decades and were legally married in 2015. They shared the story about how they met and fell in love – both with their authentic selves and one another.
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